Stress

it's such a stupid thing. yet we deal with it everyday. we stress about what we look like, how we feel, how others feel about us. we are constantly stressing. i'm stressing right now. i feel like i have 100 things to do and a minute to do it all in. i'm stressed that i won't get my homework done. that i'm not going to get that study abroad position. i will miss all these deadlines. i will let people down. stress. six letters that make us feel like our worlds are crumbling in front of us. why do we let it get to us?


why do we stress about things that are so insignificant? granted some of these things are important, but don't stress. one thing i fail to remember most times is to let go and let God. this is how i wished i lived my life. why can't i? why can't i trust that God will take care of it all and stop stressing about it? i know he will. i know that. yet when it comes to it i feel that my stressing over it will what? make it better? nope probably makes it worse. then why can't i just go with my faith and focus all this energy on something else. i think we all have this problem. some of us won't talk about our stress because we don't want to burden friends. you know what, tell them! they are there for that exact reason (if not find new ones because your current ones suck!) lay down and just let it all out to somebody. tell them everything that you're feeling. that will help more than you know. some of hold it in until we crash and burn into a big ugly mess. then we are farther behind than we were to begin with.

then again stress makes us work. it's when we are really feeling the pressure that some of us lock our sights in on our obstacles and blow them away. we get everything done and finally feel relief. i think stress is natural for us all. it depends on how we handle it. feeling stressed? go do something you love. go for a run. walk. or just a workout. you will not regret it. i promise. when you feel like you're going to be crushed by everything you have to do, get out. get away. put your favorite music on, plug those headphones in, and forget the world. sooner or later you will need to come back to it all. but you will have had your breathing break and be able to conquer it with a fresh mind. some people suggest taking naps. i do not. if you're like me naps turn into 3 hour out of it for good snooze fests. also,

 don't set unrealistic expectations for you to succeed. you want to write a 10 page research paper, an educational psych paper, attend a softball game, work 5 hours, workout, and dominate world hunger. yeah sorry not going to happen. you're going to end up sitting in the middle of your floor crying to whoever answers their phone first. that's another thing. just cry when you get stressed. it does you well to cry sometimes. i'm not saying you need to sit for hours and blubber and bawl. that's unnecessary. but shed some tears. but then wipe them off and kick ass. that's how winners are made.

don't let stress ruin your life. you will get through it all. we all will. just remember that you have friends and family willing to help you out. again if you don't lose those idiots they're worthless. keep your head up and a smile on your face.

"Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life."--Marilu Henner

xoxo

--Sam

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Stop&Do

stop over thinking situations you cannot control.
stop saying you're going to start changing and then return to your old self.
stop telling yourself you're not good enough for someone because of how you look.
stop saying you can't do it, you can and you need to.
stop trying to control those things you can't. some things are out of your hands.
stop putting things off. get them done and move on. you will be much happier and feel accomplished.
stop letting others affect how you feel about your life. you're happy they can go eff themselves.
stop letting your looks (or how you think you look) dictate if you're happy.
stop being afraid to take chances.
stop holding resentment for people.
stop being afraid to let your hair down and get a little crazy. you deserve it and maybe need it a little bit.
stop caring that people are going to judge you for doing the above.
stop obsessing over if his words mean something else (we have all done it, not cool).
stop saying presh, you sound like an idiot.
stop being ashamed of your smile and body. you're beauty is more than skin deep.
stop telling yourself that's not true.
stop looking for love in all the wrong places.
stop thinking every guy is "the one" chances are he's an idiot.
just stop all of it.

do let yourself fall madly in love.
do take chances even though you might completely fail.
do study abroad in london and don't be afraid to never want to come back.
do go home every weekend and enjoy your family. those are precious memories you can't get back.
do go home for the pure fact that you are sick of everyone and everything at college.
do openly admit that you are a straight up nerd and proud of it. you never know who will love it.
do love that boy band with all of your heart. who says you can't be young with 12 year olds.
do have those days where you lay on the couch and act like a veggie.
do let the right guy in when he comes around.
do just have fun with life.
do let loose and maybe be a little bad.
do change your life because you can.
do start a healthier lifestyle so you can feel confident and pretty.
do stay up late so you can listen to music that you think has a deeper meaning. it does.
do get dolled up just because you can.
do it all.

i think we all need to stop and start doing. some may say that doesn't make sense because you have to be doing something to stop it. well those people can suck my big unpoetic big toe. i'm trying to be deep here people. let it happen. i mean stop the mundane and unnecessary crap we all do everyday. start doing things that matter, that have sustenance and purpose. do those things you never  thought you could. stop doing those things that don't matter and start doing those that do.

“Do it badly; do it slowly; do it fearfully; do it any way you have to, but do it.” 
― Steve Chandler

xoxo
-sam

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